I started reading the ‘Heaven trilogy’ by Ted Dekker some weeks back. A book he wrote when he was dealing with the death of his 33yr old brother. Obiola would have been 32 by August.
(I actually recommend this book to anyone dealing with the passing on of a loved one, it’ll help ease the heaviness and hurt that accompanies grieving. It won’t take the pain away though, but it’ll help you better understand the process of the passage from Life to Death and from Death to Life, and also help you deal with whatever numbness or confused state your mind and emotions are in at the moment. It’s doing that for me)
As much as I’m learning to deal better with the concept of ‘Death’ in this ‘Earth’ as part of this whole ‘Life’ series equation that we’re in, and the fact that which each lesson you learn or are learning there comes a time to test the value of what you have learnt, this is a ‘test’ you don’t exactly look forward to.
From what I’ve learnt, Obiola is probably looking down and saying, in his usual funny + calm and easy + ‘chop life’ manner “Omo, guys, I know say how I waka dey messed up, but meeeehhhn, this side wey I dey, the place dey tiiiight!!. Una sure say una no go do come join me? I’m better off here o.” And then he’ll just give that his laid back smile.
The dead are dead and have moved on, it is we who are still living that grieve and are left with the worries and struggles of life.
Obiola Ikpoki, you’ll be missed on this side my brother, you’ll be sorely missed.
And then this brings me to that one essential question:
Are you ready to die? (Now, that’s another post for another day)
For it is in our readiness to die, that we indeed begin to fully live.
“…Every time you plant seed, you sow something that does not come to life [germinating, springing up, and growing] unless it dies first.” 1 Corinthians 15:36
#NoteToSelf Life, live it like you’ll soon leave it; for Death is only – The Beginning.